10 Ways to Build Confidence in Your Marriage
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The confidence, confidence you have in your partner's status, strength, power or truth is the cornerstone of all happy, successful relationships.
Under the context of your marriage or long-term, stable relationship, trust is a feeling of confidence that your partner will do what is right for you and always instill in you love, loyalty and devotion.
Unfortunately, no one is perfect and even the best partners make mistakes from time to time. Mistakes caused by heartache and grief can weaken your confidence and deepen your ability to feel secure in your marriage.
While trust can be rebuilt, if it is lost it takes a lot of time and effort to rebuild. Fortunately, if you do what is needed to rebuild trust, you can have a much stronger relationship as a result.
To build trust in your marriage, consider the following:
- Set specific, tangible goals with your partner to rekindle your relationship. (e.g. They offer at least one day a night every week.)
- Renew your commitment to each other, to your love and marriage by writing and sharing new vows.
- Express your hurt and anger without blaming him. Use “I” instead of “you”) to really hear.
- Make it a practice to show empathy and compassion to one another. There is a great deal of treatment with the words "I understand, and I apologize."
- Share something new about you with your partner every day. Like, "I'll bet I didn't tell you I used to dress like a rainbow when I was in high school 'or' You probably don't know that I used to make a wish every time I ate an oreo cookie '.
- Be at risk of each other by associating with hurtful fear and anger. For example, it says 'I'm afraid of losing your love, instead of believing that you did it for me.'
- Open everything and follow the clear rule when there are no secrets, private passwords or locked calls.
- Practice making statements instead of asking questions. This makes it safer for your partner to be open. You may be thinking, “I felt so good about the conversation we had last night… instead of“ What did you think of the conversation we had last night?
- When your spouse says something you do not agree with or do not like, think about it for a moment and then say, “You know, I never thought of that before.” There is a lot of power to open up to your partner's ideas and suggestions. It makes it easier to open your heart to him.
- Really listen to each other without making a comment in your head. Put yourself in your partner’s shoes and pay attention and don’t judge.
- Be tolerant of these changes and do not give up hope.
If you are working hard to rebuild trust in your marriage or in a long-term relationship, commitment is a matter of time before you succeed.
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