The power of forgiveness
Forgiveness is a deliberate choice to release feelings of anger and resentment towards the person who is hurting you, whether they deserve your forgiveness or not is a valuable life skill.
Letting go of painful and difficult feelings is very challenging and it is easier said than done. When someone asks you to love them, they treat you somewhat cruelly and cruelly.
This is the work you do for the person who is hurting you because it is the right thing to do, forgiveness is not about right or wrong. It is a decision to make a choice that will allow you to go; It was the first act of self-love.
Forgiveness is not for thoughtless, selfish and sensitive behavior. However, we need the kindness and human-ness that we share for you and all of us.
You may think that holding on to your anger is useful in punishing the person who hurt you, stirring up bitterness towards someone else for past mistakes that will end you up, just as the other person did. Is.
Anger and rage absorb your energy and enthusiasm faster than life. They create feelings of helplessness and destroy your self-worth, reduce your stress and affect your health.
The power of forgiveness is then freed from the emotional shackles that make you feel a series of experiences of a painful past so that you are free to experience joy and peace of mind in the present. In terms of its power, it doesn’t stop there.
Research shows that forgiveness gives you happiness, improves your health, and strengthens your relationships.
Forgiveness is something you can only do, even if the other person does not apologize, does not show remorse, or does nothing for their misdeeds.
As a psychiatrist, I often see people partially apologizing. A partial apology in the statement "I forgive you, but I will never forget". This is a great first step, but do not forget that you are not ready to let go. However, let go so that you can choose to live in the present rather than the past, which is the essence of forgiveness.
We often fear that we will walk away and forget with the worry that if we forget it will happen again!
This is where learning a lesson comes into play. When you examine the situation with a new attitude, compassion, judgment and acceptance, you will have the opportunity to learn a lesson and eventually gain the knowledge that comes after pain.
If you ever find yourself in a similar situation you can decide what to do. This internal action plan will energize you, creating the need for emotional security and security so that you can forget and see from a place where you grew up from experience and have strength.
So, how can you forgive and let go when someone you trust hurts you terribly?
It helps to remember that people who harm others always work out of mental pain and insecurity. People who feel good make good choices and the reverse is also true.
Believe that you deserve to be happy, have peace of mind and be strong, confident and courageous enough to take care of yourself and your loved ones.
Know that all human beings make mistakes. This is what we learn.
Keep in mind the fact that it does not have the power to love and forgive, as it captures anger and resentment.
Above all, be kind to yourself and be patient. Forgiveness is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight, but the sense of emotional freedom, empowerment and peace of mind makes it worth the time it offers.
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